filmnoirsbian:

Too many people talking abt Will Sad Gayboy Byers being heartbroken by his unrequited crush on his best friend and not enough of you talking abt how his big brother clocked it immediately and then gave him an impassioned speech abt how he loves him unconditionally and nothing will ever (meaningful eyecontact) ever change that and Will smiling and softly weeping as they hug bc he knows that no matter what he’ll always have his brother.

dykeabled:

i wish all my followers with chronic pain a safe, (relatively) painless winter. i know this time of year is hard for a lot of us, but i hope you all can find ways to cope with the flare ups.

cwicseolfor:

stitch-n-time:

filmnoirsbian:

Obviously there are many things to dislike about adulthood but as someone who grew up in an abusive household for whom adulthood offered the only chance at an escape, it’s incredibly important to me that i romanticize adulthood whenever possible because i know there are kids and teenagers like me out there who are seeing nothing but complaints about rent and taxes and the loneliness of living on your own and i know they’re going to internalize all of that and assume it means that adulthood won’t offer them the freedom and safety they’ve been dreaming of. So while i never want to minimize the difficulties of being an adult, i also want to highlight how incredibly nice it can be to finally have ownership of your life and your body and your time and money and food and everything else in a way that you never had before. You can choose when you wake up! You can choose what you have for breakfast! You can choose when to go to sleep or if you want to (inadvisably) stay up all night watching tv in the living room! In the living room! You can choose what to watch! These are little things, but they are worth taking pleasure in, and they are worth looking forward to.

Oh. Man.

I’m in my 40s now, but can STILL remember the first apartment I lived in alone.

The first week, I had nothing. NOTHING. I slept on the floor wrapped up in curtains, until a friend came to visit and was like “welp. This ain’t keepin’ on” and gave me a folding bed and a couple of blankets. There were part of it that were just… not fun.

You know what I did, though?

I made cookies. Because I wanted them, and nobody could keep me from using the kitchen. I got a cat, because nobody could tell me “no”. I took long, hot bubble baths because the bathroom - and the bathtub - were MINE and nobody else’s.

I turned MY music up and danced around MY living room all day (but was aware of the family with children downstairs, so shut down the one person party before it got too late).

I bought a cast-off couch for cheap and had friends help me bring it in, and sat on MY couch and sewed. And crocheted. And started to teach myself to knit. The only one there to tell me “no” was the kitten, and she loved playing with the yarn.

There were things about it that were exceptionally hard. I was a pregnant single waitress truly struggling to pay bills and put food on the table. But that’s not what stuck. What stayed with me, and what was important, was those little things that made being an adult worthwhile.

You will get out and you will get free and it still rains, sometimes, but you get to decide whether to stay in or put up your umbrella or just let it pour down your face while you stomp puddles. You get to choose. It’s not paradise, but it is, in the end, yours, which is such a relief. And all the things they say about the best of life being free - that’s true. You will have happiness of your own making.

mindfulnesspoet:

elizabethanism:

ok well this blew my mind

Mirror Life by Kamran Javadizadeh | Poetry Foundation

In Pilgrim Bell, Kaveh Akbar reaches across languages to write "documents of barbarism."

Poetry Foundation

This is also true with filmmakers. Western filmmakers pan their cameras mostly left to right and Iranian filmmakers do right to left.

Time seems such a universal concept and then I find out the different ways people perceive everything and remember “it’s all appearances to consciousness”

the-moon-loves-the-sea:

When your living space is a mess, don’t ever look around and think you should have managed better. Don’t look at the chaos as all the things you should have done. Look around and think, “Look how exhausted I’ve been. I have been saving my energy to save myself and that is right.” And then ask yourself what is one thing you could do that would make you feel more at home in your space–one thing you can manage right now. If that’s fluffing up your pillows, if that’s putting the cups back in the kitchen, if that’s writing a list of fruit you haven’t had in a while and going out to buy it, if it’s picking up your laundry from the floor and putting it on the chair, if it’s wiping the dust off your crystals–that’s enough. Do what would help you now. It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to be a mess. It’s enough to do what would help and leave the rest.

politishaun:

Actor Kal Penn has publicly opened up about his sexuality for the first time, revealing in an interview on Sunday that he is engaged to his partner of over a decade.

The Indian-American actor, who is perhaps most famous for his role in the “Harold & Kumar” franchise, said he fell in love with his fiancé, Josh, while he was working for the Obama administration 11 years ago.

“I discovered my own sexuality relatively late in life compared to many other people,” Penn exclusively told People while promoting his new memoir “You Can’t Be Serious.” “There’s no timeline on this stuff. People figure their s**t out at different times in their lives, so I’m glad I did when I did.”

Penn explained that he feels “very fortunate” to have a family that supports him, adding that he “shared things with my parents and close friends first.”

“I know this sounds jokey, but it’s true: When you’ve already told your Indian parents and the South Asian community that you intend to be an actor for a living, really any conversations that come after that are super easy,” he said. “They’re just like, ‘Yeah, okay.’ I felt very supported by everyone. That’s a wonderful thing. I know everybody has different experiences with that and so I definitely feel very fortunate.”

While Penn is sharing his “authentic” self with readers in a new way, he makes it clear that he’s always been “very public with everybody I’ve personally interacted with.”

“Whether it’s somebody that I meet at a bar, if Josh and I are out or we’re talking to friends,” Penn continued. “I’m really excited to share our relationship with readers. But Josh, my partner, my parents, and my brother, four people who I’m closest to in the family, are fairly quiet. They don’t love attention and shy away from the limelight.

As for their upcoming nuptials, Penn says the two are still in the planning stages, but he’s pushing for a “big ass Indian wedding.”

“Obviously I am engaged to a man and our families will be there for the wedding. The big disagreement now is whether it’s a huge wedding or a tiny wedding,” he said. “Josh [has said], ‘Or we could just do quick 20-minute thing with our families and that’s it.’ So we have to meet halfway in the middle.”

This bit from the People article slays me:

In You Can’t Be Serious, Penn details his first date with Josh and being shocked that his future partner a) arrived at his apartment with an 18-pack of Coors Light and b) instantly switched the TV to watch NASCAR.

“I thought, ‘This obviously is not going to work out,” he recalls. “I have one day off from The White House and this dude is unironically watching cars go around and make left turns? Next thing you know, it’s been a couple months and we’re watching NASCAR every Sunday. I’m like, ‘What is happening?’ I wanted the reader to enjoy the love and the humor through all of those stories.”

broodingandbooks:

Tamora Pierce either shaped the person you are today OR you have never heard of her. There is no in between. 

justchubbycats:

workhard3r:

justchubbycats:

Reblog this fat happy boy for a good night sleep tonight

Nothing bad happens if you don’t! Just a cute good luck charm

He brings no harm, only good fortune and good dreams